Is Self-Esteem Impacting Your Friendships?
Self-Evaluation Time: Is Your Self-Esteem Making You a Bad Friend?
I know, I know—that question fell off the wall, and it felt like it came out of nowhere. But still, I'm gonna ask you again: Is your self-esteem making you a bad friend?
Legit question. I need us to sit in this because here’s the thing—while social media loves to talk about what it means to be a good friend, who’s paying for the birthday dinner, and all that other stuff, there's a piece of the conversation that I feel is often missing. And that piece? You.
How you feel about you, what you know about you, and how that shapes the way you show up in your friendships.
If you're constantly in a space where:
You make friends easily, but you don’t keep them.
It’s very difficult for you to make friends, and you don’t keep them.
You don’t have any friends at all—just a bunch of people you call associates because we all love a little fancy language.
Then it gets me wondering… What do you know about yourself? What do you think about yourself? And how is that influencing the way you show up in friendships?
Because here’s the thing: Self-concept impacts, influences, and is very much a part of self-esteem.
Self-concept—What you know about you.
Self-esteem—What you feel about you.
If you feel shittily about yourself, it's gonna show up in your relationships. Especially if you’re always thinking they're out to get me, they don’t really care about me, this person just wants something from me. Whatever narrative you’re running with needs some evaluation, friend.
Dr. Joy said in her book Sisterhood Heals that sometimes we get these narratives from our mamas—about not hanging around the "fast" girl, about how women can’t be trusted. And I need you to consider what narratives you are working with—not just the ones about other people, but the ones about you.
Because as long as you’re coming down hard on yourself, as long as you don’t like you, you may not even see yourself as worthy of friendship. And I need us to check that.
Meanwhile, check out Sisterhood Heals (https://www.sisterhoodheals.com/) by Dr. Joy. And also, keep an eye out for my book dropping May 13—Drink Water and Mind Your Business.
Anyway. Discourse, not disrespect. Keep it cute in my comments. Bye! Bye!
