Can you be grateful and reject a gift?
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Can you be grateful and still reject the gift? That was the conversation that we had today in In My Black Feelings and baby let me tell you that it got a little bit warm, heated if you will, but not too warm and not too heated because you know we engage in discourse not disrespect!
Consider who is this gift for.
Is this gift for you? The gift giver? Because your ego is involved and you just want to give what you want to gice or is the gift about the person who’s supposed to receive it? Meaning that you would have taken the time, the thought, the effort, the energy to be able to consider:
What does this person want? What does this person like? What is within my budget? What can I give them that they’ve asked for?Because if it's about you give them what you want to give them, if it's about them, then you want to make sure that you're matching what you already know.
2. Using your voice is actually a skill.
When you use your voice, you are able to not only tell somebody that you don’t like something but you can also be grateful! You can be grateful for someone’s effort, for their thought, for their will to do this thing and still speak truth to power by telling them,” Hey the thing that you gave me or the thing that I received is not something that really fits me and it’s not something that I like.”
Consequences….
Ultimately there are consequences to teaching children and then reinforcing it with adults to simply accept the things that they are given. One of those things is that they are less discerning and less able to give consent because we have taught them to simply take whatever they are given from whoever gives it, whenever they give it and however they give it. If that’s not what you’re trying to teach then what we’re also needing to do is go ahead and check that ego! Put it to the side sweetheart.
