Recently I had the honor of meeting with Dr. Jess for her podcast, Sex with Dr. Jess and we spoke about sexual compatibility. I don’t think it’s much of a secret that I think folk use the idea of being sexually compatible as a cop out. 

What I mean is that we often work hard as hell to NOT try but then blame everything on sexual compatibility. We will say there is no chemistry, that we feel off, and have really done no work. Now, you know that I am a whole assed sex and relationship therapist so ima give you a short run down on the tea spilt in that conversation with Dr. Jess.

Whether it’s my clients or my friends, I constantly hear people talking about who they’re dating, and I often wonder if they're just wish dating. You know wish dating, when you wish the person you’re dating lived up to that list you made in your head.

A couple of weeks ago, on the eve of the new month, September, a podcast episode for Kings of the Heart release, with yours truly as a guest! We were talking about The Orgasm Gap, or in other words what is and where does the barrier lie that many women are not able to experience orgasm. So let’s talk about why women aren’t able to orgasm.

I really wanted to talk about something that I feel is a pandemic that needs to stop. It's something that bothers me, hurts me, and makes me wonder what kind of work I and other sex therapist out here in these streets doing if this is occuring. I'm talking about...hold your breath, faking orgasms.

I wanted to dedicate a blog post to a few Black women (and women of color) whose work revolves around sexuality and are doing the damn thing. What better timing, than Women's History Month.

You know what holds us back from having a bomb ass romantic loving relationship? Hint: It’s not about being single. No, the real problem is that we have been taught and you have decided that romantic relationships with others should be and are more valuable than any other type of relationship you have, including one you could build with and for you.

When  working with Black and Brown clients I like to use Biggie and Tupac as a part of my communication explanation. I often ask “did you have a Tupac conversation or a Biggie conversation?”

Now I'm talking about either one of their lyrical genius, and I'm not talking about their body of music. I'm talking about how people FOREVER, even to this day, swear that Tupac is not dead. But nobody questions that for Biggie.