In response to a negative event, we tend to become hyper vigilant and we can resort to unhealthy alternatives at times. So the question becomes, What the hell do I do now?

2020 has been a year already and we have not even touched September at the time of this writing. For me personally, I started this year in frustration and grief about my body. I started off healing from a surgery without noting the toll it would take on my mental health to not be able to move the way I wanted to move and to be in a different consistent pain.

Looking back, this sounds like a foreshadowing of the year ahead.

Therapy without politics sounds a lot like polite conversation, as my friend Dr. Lexx would say. You don’t go to therapy to just feel good for a moment, you go to therapy to heal from a lifetime of hurts with skills to continue on with.

At times, our self-awareness informs us that compliments can make us feel uncomfortable, anxious, insecure, and bothered. However, we somehow can’t escape the natural reflex to give that “look” when we do receive one and in turn we display avoidant behavior.

Whether it’s my clients or my friends, I constantly hear people talking about who they’re dating, and I often wonder if they're just wish dating. You know wish dating, when you wish the person you’re dating lived up to that list you made in your head.